How to break up with boyfriend--need a process to ween myself away?

been together for for like 4 or 5 years. the relationship is not the greatest. nothing wrong with him or me --we just don't work well together. i honestly think i've stayed so long because i like having a boyfriend but not necessarily him.





i really need to break up with him however i must WEEN myself away because if i just do it cold turkey i can't handle it--i am likely to go into severe depression and end up latching onto another guy that i'm really not that interested in either. if i had another boyfriend it would be great. there are a lot of guys interested but no one that i want.





I know I sound weak and selfish but please cut me some slack i really need a solution. what would be a good break up process?How to break up with boyfriend--need a process to ween myself away?
Call him only once a day. If you see him that day, no phone calls. Cut out a day a week. Eventually you'll be going weeks without him. Find things to do in that time. Make plans with friends. Start a hobby. Work on you! Set some goals for yourself, and focus on accomplishing them. It works. I'm getting used to not living with my BF(of 4 yrs) right now. We're not broken up, but our work schedules made it too stressful to live together (we were struggling to find time to spend together). The first month was the hardest (it felt like a clear break-up), but I'm better now (3mos later). It takes time, but you'll get over it. It's hard when you're that attached. Eventually he'll notice that you're becoming distant. Then you can tell him how you're feeling. Be nice though. Make it a friendly break up. They are way easier to move on from.How to break up with boyfriend--need a process to ween myself away?
Maybe try to hang out more with one or more girlfriends. Sometimes relationships can be a little habit forming, so if you form some other habits like going out with some other friends, or doing other things you like, it may not hurt so much.





If you found something that absolutely required time from you, then you would be forced to spend time doing something different, and it might not hurt his feeling as much too. Then over time you can tell him how you feel.





Good luck - I've been there :)
You should call him less and less on the phone for starters. Hang out less and less as time goes by. When you've been doing that for about a month, talk to him and tell him how you are feeling so that he is not in total shock when you break up. Give him some time to think about it and see if he makes any improvements. If you still want to break up with him, go ahead and do it, but be civilized and sincere. Does this help you at all?